If You Had A “Do-Over” Card, Would You Use It?

I’m not well known for making the best decisions in my life. I tend to push myself to my limits and not all outcomes are very good. There’s always a big risk if one is in the process of getting to know his/her self. So people often ask me, “Don’t you wish you made a different decision?”.

All of us, at some point in life, can’t help but want a “do-over” .

It may be because you transferred to a different school (and then came back), which lead to a year-delay at uni.  As if four years wasn't enough.

Maybe you lost your best friend because you said something entirely bitchy to her. You just can’t help yourself.

Or you lost your great love because you had ran out of patience and energy to deal with all the b*llsh*t. Hanggang kelan ka pa magpapakatanga diba?

But then, at some point, you regret saying or doing things and think “what if?”

What if I just stayed? Staying could have had me graduate on time, instead of having an extra year at uni for lacking the subjects due to transfer. I should just have stayed instead of trying out what I thought was a better school for me and my chosen career. Ugh how frustrating is that?! 

What if I just kept my mouth shout? Instead of telling her that what she was doing was all wrong and hurting other people?  ‘Edi sana hindi na nagkanda leche-leche ang lahat.

AND

What if I just held-on a little bit longer? Maybe the time will come that he’ll finally change. After all, four years pa lang na man diba?

 My answer would always be a big and fat NO.

No, I would not use a “do-over” card. I am a young woman, trying to find my way into this crazy world. Whatever I did, no matter how regretful it was, it gave me a chance to learn something.

Learn my strengths and weaknesses.

 If hadn’t made those decisions, I would certainly not be as sure as I am with myself right now. I would not have experienced a whole new world outside my comfort zone and met amazing friends. I would not know how to stand on my own, and not rely on anyone all the time. 

Learn to stand up for what is right.

Standing up for what is right is a hard thing to do. I may have hurt other people’s feelings in the process, but they should be mature enough to accept that they made a mistake. If not, that really isn’t my problem anymore.

Learn to finally let go and know what I truly deserve.

Don’t regret letting someone go. Your love may have been a fire, burning bright at the start, but eventually all flames perish when there’s nothing there to keep them burning alive.

Know that you’ll meet a lot of people in the future and maybe that’s where you’ll find someone good for you. Your relationship may not be as fiery as your great love once was. Then again, don’t you rather be all warm and comfy instead of exhaustingly burning all the time? *wink-wink*

Each and every one of us has our own path in life. “Never walk in anyone’s shadow” they said. You are your own person, with your own unique personality.

Never compare your life to others because that will only make feel that you’re not good enough.

In your life, you will have to make decisions, both easy and hard one's. The results may not always be as pleasing as you thought they would be. You will stumble and fall a lot. In the end, you will learn from your mistakes, and that will make you a stronger and better person that you were before.

Version 2.0 here we goooo!

xx