To the girls like “Audrey” while she was with “Tristan”

If you’ve watched the movie “Everyday I Love You” you would know why I’m writing this. Hahah

You know how you meet this one guy and he makes you feel special and important? How his text messages and late night calls is enough to make you smile. The way how his hugs and kisses give you butterflies. How he says I love you, like all will be right in the world. *kilig-kilig eeeppp!*

I would like you to know that, once upon a time, I was also like you.

I know how happy and contented he makes you. All is right in the world nga naman at that time.

And because of this...

I know how important it is for you to make him happy.

I know how you want him to approve of everything you do.

I know how it hurts you to see him sad and frustrated because of something you thought you did wrong. 

I know how much you’re willing to sacrifice and do for him, to be as much as contented as you are with him.

The way dress and present your self,
Who you are friends with, 
And sometimes even your own dreams and happiness.

You’re willing to change all of these for him if he tells you to because at the amount of happiness he makes you feel, you would think that this would be little sacrifices if it means being with him in the long run. Eh sure ka ba na may “long” run nga kayo nyan? Hmmm?

I want you to know this one lesson I have learned: 

IT IS NOT WORTH IT AND HE IS NOT WORTH IT.

No matter who he is and what does, if you have to give-up being happy and being yourself, it’s just not.

Don’t change how you choose to dress and present yourself. 

Unless your mum/dad tells you to. Odds are they will when they see that you’re dressed inappropriately or downright indecent. (because duh they’re your parents, that’s their job. AND they know best) If not tho, chances are he’s just an insecure and unreasonable jerk. That “babe, ayoko kasi na binabastos ka” line is so over rated. Deep down, ayaw lang talaga nyang may nag aappreciate kung anong sa kanya. So ano to? Mukhang tita ka lang sa date nyo tapos sya gwapong-gwapo sa sarili? Giiiiirl...

Don’t abandon your old friends.

Abandoning your long time friends is such an ungrateful thing to do. They have been there for you longer than he has been. Trust in your gut feeling. If you know that they mean no harm to you and they make you happy, keep them. No matter what he tells you otherwise. You will make a big mistake if you let these kind of people go. In the future, you would wish that you valued them as much as they had valued you. I know I did.

And most importantly...

Don’t give up your dreams and the things that make you happy and alive.

I mean really? Unless you’re married and secured to him just please don’t. This is too big a deal to give up for just some boy who you’re not sure to end up with in the future. You’re young and the world is too big a place to still learn from, enjoy, and explore. 

Giving up the things that make you happy will only lead to lying in a relationship or worse because then, you would be at constant battle between doing what would make you happy and what would make him happy. Mag rerebelde ka lang nyan in the long run. Cge ka.

Don’t change who you are, because trust me when I say that losing YOURSELF will be more heartbreaking and depressing than losing him.

If he completely and utterly loves you (like you think he is) then he won’t try to change you. Instead, he will motivate and support you in your dreams and just add to the happiness that you already have. 

He will let you grow in your own time. He will be there when you need him to pick you back up every time you make a mistake and to tell you that it will be okay and he’ll always have your back. He will be patient and understanding as much as he can. 

He will do all of these because he loves you. He will feel lucky and happy (just like you do) to merely have you as his (as he is yours). 

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